Why Buy the Cow, When You Can Get the Milk for Free? A Guy’s Perspective on Modesty

I should preface this post by saying I am a new guest blogger for Virtuous Prom….and I’m a guy.

In my long and short 27 years there is one thing I’ve learned for certain, and that is there is nothing more beautiful than the female form.  You ladies are the reason I didn’t do as well as I should have in school. I spent half my time distracted by you and the other half distracted by cars. Beauty is power and ladies you have more power over men than you could ever imagine. It’s important you realize this and remember “With great power, comes great responsibility.”

You have the power to make guys like me weak, and weak men aren’t men of God. Weak men can not be effective leaders, husbands, fathers, and friends. The world needs strong, virtuous men and I’ll let you in on a little secret: We desperately need your help to be that way.  Being virtuous and modest are the biggest ways you can help the men in your life be better men of God.  By making them better, you’re making yourself better in return.

Modesty directly reflects a persons dignity.

Let’s take Taylor Swift and Miley Cyrus for example:
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…Who would you say is dignified and virtuous?

The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches, “The Forms taken by modesty, vary from one culture to another. Everywhere, however, modesty exists as an intuition of the spiritual dignity proper to man.” (ccc 2524)

Today’s society is consumed with sex, and thus makes modesty, virtue and dignity take a back seat. Sadly, more focus is placed on Kim Kardashian’s ‘behind’ than the beautifully modest Taylor Swift sending Christmas gifts to a good portion of her fans (yeah, I kind of have a crush on Taylor Swift…get over it!).

Men Like women…Women want men to like them. It’s simple. Sometimes to get male attention a lady feels the need to expose more of her body than her mind.Well, I’ve got another secret for you: you don’t need to. If the guy is a guy worth having he will be drawn to you first and your body second.  That’s not to say worth while guys aren’t checking out the immodestly dressed – they are – but they are checking out the modestly dressed too.  It just goes to show you that it doesn’t matter what you’re wearing, guys are looking. So leave a little more to the imagination!  Most guys are scared to talk to you anyway and when you’re showing off your body you’re not helping us.

Men are in desperate need of help. The majority may not admit it, but we are.  For many guys modesty can mean the difference between thinking “Wow! She’s so beautiful right now” (with a slight dorky grin) and “Wow…I want to see what’s under those clothes” (with wide eyes and a creepy grin).  Being immodest gives way to lustful, carnal thoughts, and actions; furthermore, it turns you into an object, not a human.

Which one would you like guys to be thinking?

Living a virtuous life isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth while.

This is more than just a blog post; it’s a plea. A plea to women of every age, please help the men in your life by being virtuous. Please help us become the Prince you deserve, by being the Princesses you are. I hope that having an insight to the male perspective on modesty and virtue reassures you that it’s not all about showing your body off, it’s about showing yourself off.

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